Spent a good chunk of this afternoon with Josh and his family. Good parts were seeing another friend that I hardly ever see since he moved to Maine and meeting Josh's new little nephew Finn, who gives Widget a run for her money in the cute arena. Those were about the only good parts.
It hurts my heart so much to see Josh looking so sad and lost. I just want to do anything to fix things, to make him feel better, and I can't. I'm glad we went over to keep him company, and I'm hoping Wiley will go after work a few times this week to see if he can help out, or try to keep his spirits up. The worst was listening to Josh the die-hard Pats fan talk about how he thought maybe this year he'd just go watch the Bills play instead, which was something he and his dad did when the games didn't conflict (and occasionally when they did). Another friend told me that this is the first real loss Josh has gone through, and I don't think I imagine a worse first loss to go through - someone so close, and for it to happen so suddenly.
I'm glad I have Widget to distract me, she keeps me busy enough, I don't have much time to get all mopey and sad.
Worst for me is that I just don't know what to do... I have no idea what's appropriate and what's not, what's helpful and what's not. I end up being so afraid of doing the wrong thing that I end up doing nothing, then feeling guilty about that. For that reason too, I'm glad we went over today. Just being there to hug and talk and support helped, I hope.
It hurts my heart so much to see Josh looking so sad and lost. I just want to do anything to fix things, to make him feel better, and I can't. I'm glad we went over to keep him company, and I'm hoping Wiley will go after work a few times this week to see if he can help out, or try to keep his spirits up. The worst was listening to Josh the die-hard Pats fan talk about how he thought maybe this year he'd just go watch the Bills play instead, which was something he and his dad did when the games didn't conflict (and occasionally when they did). Another friend told me that this is the first real loss Josh has gone through, and I don't think I imagine a worse first loss to go through - someone so close, and for it to happen so suddenly.
I'm glad I have Widget to distract me, she keeps me busy enough, I don't have much time to get all mopey and sad.
Worst for me is that I just don't know what to do... I have no idea what's appropriate and what's not, what's helpful and what's not. I end up being so afraid of doing the wrong thing that I end up doing nothing, then feeling guilty about that. For that reason too, I'm glad we went over today. Just being there to hug and talk and support helped, I hope.