I suspect it's inherited, but just because it is doesn't mean it's immune to what you can do - I'm sure you can think of your habits that you've developed tactics to corral in useful ways (or at least mitigate somewhat.)
Maybe you could suggest three different options, and have her pick from them, or give her ideas on how she could decide - not so much "what about the Candy Shop?" but ideas on what you do when there are too many choices?
That last one might be a way to help her (and you) come up with ways of dealing with decision paralysis in general.
This is timely, because I was talking to my mom last night, and she was talking about how they're bidding on a house. Their current house is paid off, and the main reason they might buy a new one is that it's a ranch they can move into with my grandfather.
She sighed and said, "I hate change. I don't deal well with it." I chuckled and mentioned, "well, I think we inherited that."
"But you and your brother do so much better."
I forbore to remind her how rigid my brother is in his habits and routines, and instead took it for a kind of compliment. I know that I'm not always great at accepting change, but it's a work in progress, if that makes any sense.
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Date: 2008-07-10 12:47 pm (UTC)Maybe you could suggest three different options, and have her pick from them, or give her ideas on how she could decide - not so much "what about the Candy Shop?" but ideas on what you do when there are too many choices?
That last one might be a way to help her (and you) come up with ways of dealing with decision paralysis in general.
This is timely, because I was talking to my mom last night, and she was talking about how they're bidding on a house. Their current house is paid off, and the main reason they might buy a new one is that it's a ranch they can move into with my grandfather.
She sighed and said, "I hate change. I don't deal well with it." I chuckled and mentioned, "well, I think we inherited that."
"But you and your brother do so much better."
I forbore to remind her how rigid my brother is in his habits and routines, and instead took it for a kind of compliment. I know that I'm not always great at accepting change, but it's a work in progress, if that makes any sense.