A widget tale
Jul. 9th, 2008 11:57 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sierciaMost of you who know me in real life know that I have a terrible time making choices. An overly stocked menu can send me flailing into "everything looks so good" paralysis that is only snapped by the panic of the waitress being RIGHT THERE pen at the ready. Forget about important life choices - they reduce me to a gibbering mess of indecision.
Widget has started doing the same thing. I'm torn by how to react to it. On the one hand, it drives me up a TREE (there's nothing like one of your bad habits reflected in your kid), especially the little eye roll I get when she asks me to pick for her, butI somehow pick wrong, but then she also won't take the opposite of what I picked. On the other, I don't know how to handle it. It is some inate nature that she's inherited from me, therefore immune to anything I might do? Is it some kind of insecurity or fear of being "wrong" that I should be concerned about and try to find ways to bolster her confidence? Is she sensing that it drives me out of my gourd and doing it on PURPOSE?
Then tonight at Friendly's when she was trying to decide which kid's sundae to have, she raised the bar.
"I want something like the kid's hot fudge, but I want to choose my toppings."
"How about the Candy Shop Sundae (where you can choose your flavor and two toppings, and whipped cream and a cherry) and pick what you want?"
"But I had that LAST week." (I know, but we somehow got into the routine of going to Friendly's after the library on Daddy's snowboarding night)
"Well, you can have it with different stuff on it this week. Or, you could ask for kid's hot fudge, but with a different sauce (thinking maybe she was hung up on ordering the one)."
"But then it won't be a kid's hot fudge"
"Well, I know, but you said you wanted something different that that."
"Fine, I'll have Candy Shop *sigh*"
(Note, this is about when I marched her out of Friendy's altogether, sighing over having to CHOOSE which ice cream sundae she wanted.)
And then there was 5 minutes of angst over which toppings, whereupon she ordered the same exact thing she ordered last week.
*headdesk*
Widget has started doing the same thing. I'm torn by how to react to it. On the one hand, it drives me up a TREE (there's nothing like one of your bad habits reflected in your kid), especially the little eye roll I get when she asks me to pick for her, butI somehow pick wrong, but then she also won't take the opposite of what I picked. On the other, I don't know how to handle it. It is some inate nature that she's inherited from me, therefore immune to anything I might do? Is it some kind of insecurity or fear of being "wrong" that I should be concerned about and try to find ways to bolster her confidence? Is she sensing that it drives me out of my gourd and doing it on PURPOSE?
Then tonight at Friendly's when she was trying to decide which kid's sundae to have, she raised the bar.
"I want something like the kid's hot fudge, but I want to choose my toppings."
"How about the Candy Shop Sundae (where you can choose your flavor and two toppings, and whipped cream and a cherry) and pick what you want?"
"But I had that LAST week." (I know, but we somehow got into the routine of going to Friendly's after the library on Daddy's snowboarding night)
"Well, you can have it with different stuff on it this week. Or, you could ask for kid's hot fudge, but with a different sauce (thinking maybe she was hung up on ordering the one)."
"But then it won't be a kid's hot fudge"
"Well, I know, but you said you wanted something different that that."
"Fine, I'll have Candy Shop *sigh*"
(Note, this is about when I marched her out of Friendy's altogether, sighing over having to CHOOSE which ice cream sundae she wanted.)
And then there was 5 minutes of angst over which toppings, whereupon she ordered the same exact thing she ordered last week.
*headdesk*